LGBTQ Brooklyn Psychologist

Kieran (Kyra) Grosman - Psy.D.

The compromises you’ve made in your relationships no longer serve you...

...Now it’s time to renegotiate the pact you’ve made with yourself and other people as you work to create a life that’s more inline with your vision of how you want to be in the world.

Hi, I'm LGBTQ Brooklyn Psychologist Kieran Grosman

I believe that everyone is wonderful once they rediscover who they were before all their shit got in the way.

I guide queer people who know that life has more to offer, but can't figure out how to live their best life. Or maybe even a good enough life. Because they are too anxious to act. Because they hold themselves back. Because they are more attuned to other people's needs than their own needs.

Your anxiety stems from the mistaken belief that you need to do more, be more, and achieve more in order to be seen, loved, and held by the important people in your life.

Often, when you've buried your authentic self for so long, it can feel like the only way it’s safe to be seen is if you’re perfect. Soon you're left wondering if you will ever achieve heartfelt connections.

And the truth is believing that it’s ok to show up as your true self is really hard. It's normal to feel like you want to hide.

Even though you feel hopeless and despondent now, it doesn't have to keep you from changing these long-standing relationship patterns. Instead, you can commit to a rigorous kind of therapy that will help you find joy, ease, and meaningful connection.

I know from my own path to wellness and healing...

how painful it is to feel lost, and that no matter how lost one feels, a better, more engaged life is possible. For everyone.

I was a high-achieving teenager. After graduating from an Ivy League University with high honors, I floundered. I had vague ideas about what I wanted to do with my life, but nothing was compelling enough to allow me to commit to it. And I spent the next decade not knowing.

So too in my personal relationships. I knew what I wanted, but I lacked the interpersonal skills (vulnerability, trust, a willingness to show up for the right people and expect people to show up for me) to achieve that.

After a lot of hard work, I have been able to overcome anxiety, depression, and shitty relationship patterns, living a life that blows me over. And I've been able to help many other people do that, too!

As a Clinical Psychologist...

I help you undo very long-standing patterns of self-neglect and abuse through a therapeutic approach known as Intensive Short-Term Dynamic Psychotherapy.

When you schedule a session with me you will undertake rigorous treatment that will transition you from believing that you are fundamentally flawed to a person who loves and accepts themselves.

If you dedicate yourself, you will get to the point where you:

  • No longer accept relationship crumbs
  • Enjoy a feast of full, deep emotional connection.
  • Are no longer secretly terrified that there’s something inherently wrong with you.
  • Get to meet you authentic, awesome self again.

Through this very hard work, you will fundamentally change who you are and how you operate in the world.

Perhaps you’ve noticed that your usual anxiety has become worse, and your obsessive thinking, poor sleep, and fear that everything’s about to go to shit is becoming intolerable. You’ve tried mindfulness, reasoning with yourself, improving your diet and exercise routine, and working for better sleep hygiene, but you’re still an anxious wreck. When you schedule a session with me, we will help you understand the underlying, hitherto unknown thoughts and feelings that are driving your anxiety so you can be peaceful, productive, and proud once again. CLICK HERE TO LEARN MORE  

Or maybe, it’s as if life has been sapped of all pleasure. You’re going through the same old routine, but you can’t imagine having to do this another year, much less for the rest of your life. You’ve tried meditating and getting to the gym regularly, but a persistent sense of gloom and despair continues. When you come to Kieran Grosman for therapy you will stop retreating behind a wall and instead seek fulfilling connections with others. HEAD HERE FOR MORE INFO

I am a queer psychologist in Brooklyn. I am culturally competent to work with other queer people. I can help straight people, too!

Pronouns: He/His/Him